Why do we shy away from the tough conversations? Is it the yucky feelings it generates?
- Oh I don’t want to feel this way…
This is too hard a question…
Why are you making me think?…
Can’t you just send me a text? Maybe an email?
Something where I don’t have to think on the spot and reveal my true feelings? Something where I can measure my response and take my time?
Yeah, no – that’s not a conversation, that’s a message.
A conversation is direct, personable, synchronous and asks the hard questions, now, not later.
We can ask the easy questions in person and avoid the “yucky” feelings or we can learn to relish those feelings and live with the benefits that they can generate.