I’ve taken to asking people this question when they approach me in an obviously perturbed manner that is a combination of frustration, anger, confusion, or any other malcontent emotion.
What is the Answer you want to hear that will make you happy?
In all cases, they are immediately taken aback, not because I’m being rude (I do try to be pleasant even when the emotions are running high) but rather because they are trying to think of what answer will actually them happy.
And they don’t know, they don’t know what answer they want to hear.
From here you have two paths that you can go down – one, be blunt – “if you don’t even know what you want, how am I supposed to know” – which will get you no further (and might even set you back a few steps from where you are now) OR two, be honest – “let’s figure this out.”