When I first became a Software Manager, I was pretty lost, not sure what to do or where to start. I was pretty lucky in that I had a strong supporting environment and picked things up over time. Recently I was reading the book – “The Successful Software Manager” by Herman Fung and this brought me back to that first day to when I wasn’t sure where to start, what to work on, where I…
It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter because the paths you took are different. The courses you learned might be different. The time you both put in is different. The what you do with your free time is different. The people you hang out with are different. The how you get to work is different. It’s all different, so the comparisons are invalid – compare to you and move on from there.
There is too much noise on the hustle, the side-project, the long-game, the short-game, the in-between game, the what matters now, the what you need to learn, the where you need to go, the courses you need to take, the what matters most, the what it all comes down to, the what matters most, the politics that drive us, the lessons we learn, the celebration of failure, the plateau of going nowhere, the wondering of…
How will you expect someone to do it for you? (That is all).
The hits we take. The failures we go through. The roadblocks we run into. The walls we crash into. The jobs we don’t get. The presentations that don’t work. The lessons that fail. They make us stronger, but only if we let them. If we don’t, they simply make us angrier (which is the opposite of where we want to go).