Ever sat beside someone and listen to them go off on a particular topic for 15 minutes and then nonchalantly ask them “Now tell me what you really think”. It’s part Tongue in Cheek in that they have already told you everything but part deeper analysis.
You’ve told me all the little things that are bugging you – but now tell me the root cause – now that you’ve gotten it out of your system, now tell me what is really bothering you.
Generally, it’s silence first, but wait for it, and you’ll get the real answer, the real problem and from there you can start to move forward.
