Not before – nothing has happened.
Not during – it’s happening and they are in a groove.
Not a few weeks after – it’s too late, the moment is gone, you’ve all moved on.
It’s in the sweet spot that can’t be quantified between completing the event and giving a short amount of time for emotions, intelligence, stress, frustration, everything to dissipate.
Where both parties are ready to listen to what is being given and discuss what should happen next time.
It’s different for everyone, in every situation.
That’s the hard part about being a leader, one size doesn’t fit all.